Christmas narrative ultimately is one of making amends
“We fray into the future, rarely wrought / Save in the tapestries of afterthought. More time, more time.” —Richard Wilbur
The wisdom passed down through generations that finding purpose through helping others brings fuller meaning than amassing possessions for oneself is a sentiment most know well, especially in seasons of celebration. But living by this principle is no simple feat.
We exist within a system that champions personal advancement — even cheering it on — and eventually, we find ourselves wanting what we’ve provided to measure up to what we’ve received. Still, I do believe there’s inherent value in the idea that enriching lives apart from ours leads to richer life experiences than acquiring things. Gathering material objects only offers fleeting satisfaction that quickly fades. On the other hand, acts of compassion and generosity cultivate a deeper sense of comfort, significance and fulfillment.
Truly, finding purpose through helping others brings fuller meaning than amassing possessions for oneself. The most valuable present we can offer our loved ones this holiday is our company.
The fleeting nature of life reminds us of its inherent uncertainties. Many treasured companions part from our sides too soon. Words once deep in meaning, such as love, peace and hope, at times take the form of empty, shallow slogans.
But Christmas is far more than pretty paper under a tree — it’s an outpouring of fondness, delight and peace. These are the most important gifts we can share — yet, often the hardest to offer— particularly when our spirit is weary. The essence of Christmas shouldn’t be kept to ourselves. It’s something that truly comes alive when passed on to others. As the poet Kahlil Gibran reflected, “You give but little when you give of your possessions. It is when you give of yourself that you truly give.”
Although society emphasizes individual success, finding purpose through helping others yields deeper fulfillment, unlike transient material gifts. At Christmastime, when loved ones draw near, our care for those dearest to us deserves no less should they fail to reciprocate that love. True affection asks nothing in return, keeps no ledger of costs and credits, but embraces each soul simply for their inherent worth. Though life offers no guarantees and sorrows still visit all, a hopeful heart sees light even in winter’s deepening shadows.
Extend peace this season by initiating dialogue or reaching out. A single phone call or talk won’t heal years of wounds, but it’s still a necessary first step. Hope is a precious commodity, a treasure to discover ourselves and a wonderful gift to offer another. Seek the best in people. Trust in their utmost potential and encourage them often. The Christmas narrative is ultimately one of making amends. A child arrived to bring pardon to those who need it the most.
Likewise, this festive season is a chance to extend forgiveness and make the first move toward mending bridges. Others may wish us ill, but repaying animosity with more negativity only perpetuates the cycle of pain. Clinging to resentment gives others hold over us indefinitely; spreading goodwill to our offenders liberates us, opening the door to greater things.
Perhaps, the best gifts we could present this Christmas are exactly those we most yearn to be granted.
Michael Seeger is a poet and educator residing in Cathedral City. Prior to his life as a middle school English instructor, he worked as a technical writer for a baseball card company and served as a Marine infantry officer during Desert Storm. Email him at Hemingwayhero@dc.rr.com.