Daughters don’t want me to remarry at 72
Dear Pastor,
I am a 72-year-old man and I have been reading your column for many years. I was married and my wife and I have three daughters. Unfortunately, my wife died two years ago from that dreaded disease called cancer. These girls are loving and they take very good care of me. They are living in the United States of America.
I have been with a woman for the past six months and we are sexually active. She is also 72. Our sex life can’t be better. My daughters love her. This woman and I would like to get married, but two of my daughters do not agree. I told them that they need not be afraid of not getting my house. My partner does not need my house because she has her own. She is very independent. My daughters say that at my age I have to learn to behave myself.
One of my daughters is a medical doctor and she is the only one among the three who told me I should go ahead and get married because I may live longer. She says her sisters don’t understand, but she understands because she has to deal with seniors like me almost every day. She knows how well her mother and I took care of each other. I am in good health and I don’t even look my age or feel my age.
My lady friend and I go for walks and we exercise every day. I know that my body is not dead. She enjoys being with me at all times. I can hardly keep up with her in the bedroom; I know that age is not just a number. But as I said, I don’t feel my age. I love my children and the two who are objecting to my plans to get married. I am not sure how to deal with them, so I am asking you for your kind advice.
I will be looking out for your answer.
G.
Dear G.,
Many years ago, I had the privilege of spending some time at the home of a couple who were in their senior years. They were wonderful Christian people. Unfortunately, the woman died, but a couple of years later, the man fell in love with a woman who was in his age group. She was near 80. I remember vividly talking to that man and how excited he was. He went abroad to visit her and when I asked him how was the visit he said, “Oooooooh, my brother, we had a splendid time.”
They did everything that one could imagine. They enjoyed themselves immensely, in and out of bed. Unfortunately, he was not able to marry this woman because his children were against the relationship and that caused him to become very sad.
Now, I can understand what you have said. Your daughters, except the one who is a medical doctor, feels that it is time for you to forget having a wife. They think it is time to give that up. You may have to ask your daughter who is supporting the idea that you can get married to reason with them. Your body is not dead. You will not be able to be fast on the trigger, so to speak, but if you can maintain an erection and do all the other things with your woman and your faculty is intact, you should married.
The Good Lord has made women in such a way that they do not decline in their sex drive, even when they are in their 70s. Some of them are so very hot that they find it difficult to control themselves and that is why many become emotionally and sexually entangled with much younger men. You have found your girlfriend to be so active that you question whether you can keep up with her.
I say to you, dear sir, go ahead and get married.
Pastor