He dumped me on mini-break but now he wants me back
I met a lovely guy online and we started dating, and everything felt good. He seemed keen to have a relationship and invited me away for a weekend.
However, on our first night away in the hotel, he started talking about us just being friends and wasn’t sure he wanted a big commitment.
I was stunned, but figured I had to make the best of the weekend, so I booked myself into another room and we spent a weird weekend together. I was expecting romance and sex but ended up in a twin room by myself.
To cut a long story short, I agreed to stay in touch, but I stopped answering his calls and if I replied to a text, I kept it short and sweet, as I felt I had to move on and didn’t want to get my heart broken.
However, recently, he’s been sending me really flirty, suggestive messages and trying to arrange for us to meet up. I’m totally confused and feel like he’s messing with my head.
Why invite me away for a romantic weekend, dump me on the first night and then try to start something up again?
What’s his game and what should I do? I probably wouldn’t think twice about blocking him if he wasn’t so charming and attractive.
Oh, move on, love! You didn’t sign up to a dating site to make a new friend.
Unfortunately, you’ve met someone who sounds like a player and you don’t know what’s really going on in his world. For all you know, he could be in a relationship or have several dates on the go and is keeping his options open.
All I’m seeing here are red flags all over the place.
You just don’t need to be messed around by someone you barely know and who’s treated you pretty shoddily.
The thing about online dating is that you can keep swiping and keep moving on until you meet someone you click with who can offer you more than good looks and charm.
Don’t take what happened personally – he’s the one who looks silly and embarrassing. Move on from him, so you can focus on meeting someone else. You don’t know him well enough to worry about cutting him off, so either tell him directly that you’re moving on and goodbye or just block him (or do both).
He sounds needy and narcissistic, so from this friend you’ve never met, run for the hills and don’t look back. Don’t waste any time dwelling, and give yourself the chance to meet someone who deserves you.
I would block him but he’s so charming and attractive